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Living with anxiety - 10 top tips: #6

  • PUBLISHED SAT 17:54, 4 AUG 2018
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  • UPDATED TUE 08:34, 14 AUG 2018
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  • BY TRACY BOND

6: Choose to maintain a positive attitude

Some of us spend hours ruminating and dwelling on the negative things in our lives. We worry what might go wrong instead of focusing on the positive and the good.

Might it be more desirable to train ourselves to focus on thoughts that will move us in the right direction instead?

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Inside our head some of us re-live our past negative experiences, analysing them over and over. The problem is, by doing this we will only make those feelings stronger and reinforce them.

It's good to talk and process these areas providing we swiftly move back to the "here and now" rather than dwelling on the negative. To get away from a problem we should not just focus on it, but instead, focus on the present moment, the here and now. Nice things.

Sometimes the "now" is not particularly good so we may need to dig deep: do I have food? A place to live? Someone to love?

Even though it doesn't always feel that way, we do have more power over our thoughts than we think. We really can lift our mood and stay up - it really is possible. Some counselling techniques, for example, cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT), when used properly and appropriately, gives us the tools and skills to move away from anxiety and depression and eventually to leave them behind for good. It's not magic and it can sometimes be scary but it's structured and it works.

For now, stop yourself from re-living stuff from earlier and analysing it all over again. Instead, pinch yourself and concentrate on the present, the right now... perhaps examine the view from your window, the things on your shelf, what's on the telly...anything that's NOT negative past events!

And if you notice negative, self-limiting thoughts playing over in your mind then say, "STOP/PAUSE!" Don't give them this power over you - you have better things to do! If this feels too much of an "ask" then save this for your therapy hour.

 

 

If you think you might prefer some one-to-one help with any issues you might be facing, the best place to find a qualified, reputable therapist is on the BACP website here: https://www.bacp.co.uk/about-therapy/how-to-find-a-therapist/.

Or, if you're close enough to Alsager you might like to click here to make a booking with me.

 


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